The Pain of Breaking Old Habits
Is it worth all the battles? Old habits have the power to physically and emotionally destroy us, yet we remain aggressively addicted to practising them. Do we realise that we are doing it? Usually not! Usually, these habits are a subconscious reflex built from survival. I’m not speaking of why you may always tie your right shoe first before the left. I’m referring to the kind of habits that influence our perception of the world and the relationships we maintain within it—the subconscious agreements we make that create an immense amount of pleasure and satisfaction. Consider the person who sees the world through the lens of a pessimist. He believes there are no good people, only those who take and would be taken advantage of. As he experiences the world with the belief that there are no good people, his reality bends to this perception. At every turn, he is rewarded with profound evidence to support his beliefs. He feels a sense of deep pleasure, a dark pleasure, born of his righteousness. When we have been wronged or experience deep trauma, it is here, in that believed reaffirmation of our experience, that we feel a great sense of justification. We